I am of the belief that we are never done learning about each other. No matter how long you’ve know someone, how much you have in common, or how official or unofficial your relationship, people can and do continue to grow (Ideally. If you feel you can’t/don’t/won’t, then that’s a conversation for another blog post.) However, the really good stuff about us, the pieces of our character that make us truly unique and make people stop and take notice of us? Those things remain constant. If you are lucky, you will find one or a few people throughout your life who let you see “the real deal” parts of them no matter the chaos of the day/month/year/phase of life.
Enter tonight’s phone call. I got the chance to catch up with one of my real deal people. A true favorite. All in all cheerful, snarky, serious, challenging, sarcastic, empathetic… refreshing. You know the type – the people you can talk about everything and nothing with in the same conversation and at the end of it, your faith in the world has been restored. Just like that.
I actually got a pretty fantastic kick in the butt in tonight’s conversation. One I needed. I’ve been feeling restless lately, about where I am, who I’m with, what I want, what path to take next. The paradox of choice: blessed to be able to really do whatever and go wherever, talking a lot about it, and yet feeling crippled by all of the options, never making a move. Why? Well, you don’t know. You just feel like you can’t. And no matter how many different people urge you to “just do it” and make the call, their words don’t resonate with you. BUT when one of your real deal people says it, it’s like you’re hearing it for the first time. Not because of their particular words or style, or even timing. Because it came from someone who you feel you know at the core and who continues to give you the best they’ve got, no matter how long it has been or where life has taken them. That consistency, that connection, makes all the difference.
Who are those real deal people for you? The ones who could maybe give you the kick in the butt you need. The ones you’ll actually listen to, who you actually want to hear it from. Take some time to think about it. And if you’re confused by who it might be, just keep the idea in the back of your mind. The next time you talk to one, you’ll know it. I think you’ll probably even feel it. It’s probably the person you catch yourself smiling with, even just over the phone.